This book exists because silence is not working.
Men are struggling. The usual answers are failing them.
Not self-help. Not blame. Not the manosphere. Just an honest conversation for men who feel lost, angry, unheard, and are ready for something better.
Author Introduction
Why this book matters now
A short introduction from author Bill McCamley on why Right My Dudes...Now What? speaks directly to men who feel lost, angry, unheard, or ready for something better.
Why This Book Exists
This book exists because silence is not working.
A raw, honest exploration about how disconnection and loneliness can lead men to dangerous addictions, economic problems, incarceration, and suicide and how men can express themselves honestly—without being an asshole.
McCamley offers an honest, deep, and personal analysis of where men are today… He also charts a path for winning men back — offered with well-researched and practical strategies that can be used right now.
Who It’s For
For men. For mothers & partners. For anyone trying to understand what many men are carrying.
This book speaks to men who feel lost, angry, and unheard. It also helps mothers, partners, educators, and communities understand what many men are experiencing, and why right-wing voices in media and politics often gain traction by speaking directly to that pain.
“I have personally been next to Bill when we were told that there is no longer any place in the progressive movement for white men. For the most part, I have kept my head down...With this book he is adding a new and long-overdue voice to the conversation about the crisis of masculinity.”
What This Book Takes On
The questions many men are carrying but rarely ask out loud.
“Right My Dudes should be required reading for all college freshmen. The gaps in what our young men are learning during their developmental years are obvious, but Bill McCamley traces the problem back to its roots, then presents interesting ideas on how men can move forward. This is an important book coming out at a crucial time.”
Loneliness
The isolation many men feel but rarely know how to name, admit, or bring into conversation.
The Manosphere
Why some men are pulled toward bad answers when no one else seems willing to speak to them directly.
Men and Mental Health
The silence, shame, suicide risk, substance abuse, and emotional avoidance shaping too many men’s lives.
Sex, Dating, and Confusion
The questions many men have about women, relationships, intimacy, rejection, and communication.
Communication
How men talk, avoid talking, joke instead of admitting pain, and struggle to say what is really happening.
Pain Without the Pain Olympics
A way to talk about men’s pain without ignoring women’s pain or turning suffering into a competition.
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Why I wrote this book
I hate the manosphere, but feel like many on my political side don't want or value me.
I've spent more than 20 years in public life, serving as County Commissioner, State Representative, and New Mexico Secretary of Labor.
I wrote this book because I kept hearing from men who felt lost, unheard, angry, confused, and unsure how to talk about what they were experiencing. I recognized in their stories some of the same pressures I had felt in my own life.
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Interviews, talks, and writing reflecting the ideas behind Right My Dudes...Now What?
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Mental Health Monday: Bill McCamley
Bill talks with Liz Liano about men’s mental health, loneliness, suicide prevention, and why men need better ways to ask for help and support one another.
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Think Again: Bill McCamley on Men in America
A radio conversation about men, confusion, communication, and what this book is trying to address.
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Mental Health Speech for Construction Workers
A version of Bill’s mental health talk for mostly male construction workers.
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Fellas, Let’s Put Ourselves in Women’s Shoes
A short video urging men to understand why many women are angry right now, and why history still shapes that anger.
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If You Aren’t Native American, Your Family Came Here From Somewhere Else
A short video reminding viewers that most American families came from somewhere else too.
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What this book is — and what it is not
A few answers for readers, families, organizers, and interviewers trying to understand the conversation around Right My Dudes...Now What?
No. The book speaks directly to men who feel lost, angry, unheard, or confused, but it does not send them toward toxic answers. It is not the manosphere, and it is not a lecture. It is a harder conversation.
No. The book is written first for men, but it is also for mothers, partners, educators, friends, and communities trying to understand what many men are carrying before worse answers reach them.
No. One of the central ideas is that there is no healing in the Pain Olympics. Men’s pain and women’s pain do not have to be placed in competition.
Bill writes from lived experience, public-service experience, and direct work around mental health, suicide prevention, and substance abuse in heavily male construction trades. The voice is raw, but the argument is not just opinion. Bill cites his sources.
Yes. The site includes pathways for media, speaking requests, panels, podcasts, book events, and public conversations. Confirmed appearances will be listed as dates become available.
The site will include a references page for selected books, articles, research, organizations, and further reading connected to the book’s themes.